Showing posts with label Indian Marriage System. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Indian Marriage System. Show all posts

MATCH MAKING

Now a days so many young boys and girls are unmarried in our society especially who has weak financial background or who are less educated. These types of candidates hardly get any match or a life partner, many of these candidates who grown elder are bounded to live a bachelor or single life. I fail to understand the case of those candidates who are well established in their life, financially secure and has good family background but still don't get their partner. Some of the reasons behind the above which flows through my mind are as follows :

1.              Parents of the bride are too much ambitious now. They want more educated and financially secure groom having small family, living separately and also has own house. They want their daughter to live separately after marriage.
2.              Parents of groom wants bride who is educated, is in service-woman, calm, obedient and hard-working able to bear the responsibilities of joint family. Also they want that bride parents may do the marriage in luxurious way and give lots of wealth as a gift to them.
3.              Another reason is that cases of divorce are increasing in society and parents take too much extra care in making match to save their ward and family from divorce situation.
4.              Today life is too much busy and nobody gets extra time and energy for their family which increases tension between family members so the bride parents tries to search for a groom who can share housework responsibilities with their daughter.

Marriage System in India

In Indian culture whenever any marriage is arranged the parents of boy & girl make a estimate of expenditure to be spent on various items like jewellery, cloths, sweets, furniture, traveling and other miscellaneous expenses. Parents of girls have to arrange for all household goods, bike/car, bungalow/flat, etc for the new couple according to their estimate and capacity while on the other side boys parents gives jewellery, cloths to the new married bride and boys parents give presents/gifts to their own sisters and daughters. The estimate of both sides is generally remains same or have some minor differences but the amount spent by girls parents or we can say the gifts/goods given by girls parents in marriage is counted as Dowry which sometimes raises a question in my mind that why the only girls parents expenditure is counted as Dowry? Why not the expenditure of Boys parents are counted as Dowry? Here I would like to clarify that I am strongly against any forced demand from girls parents but the help to establish new couple should not be counted as dowry while the couple must take care that they stands at their own feet's without having much problems for their parents.

If want to change the above mentioned system then court marriage/marriage in temple/shrine/church/religious place can be opt in which only girl, boy & their parents goes to complete the procedure of marriage and no relatives/friends needs to be invited. No function/party (lunch & dinner) will be offered to anyone, but it will remove the social linking from society so to preserve society values a joint dinner/lunch party may be organized by both side parents). No amount will be spent on celebration and No Gifts/cloths/jewellery will be given to bride/groom and they must settle themselves at their own. THE IMPORTANT THINGS TO BE NOTED THAT MARRIAGE MUST BE ARRANGED ONLY WHEN BRIDE/GROOM THEMSELVES HAVE ENOUGH RESOURCES IN THEIR POCKET TO ESTABLISH THEIR NEW FAMILY.

On blog of my friend I come to know about a matrimonial web site which works for the bachelors to marry without dowry the site is http://idontwantdowry.com. If you are a bachelor and your are against you can register on this site.