In Indian culture whenever any marriage is arranged the parents of boy & girl make a estimate of expenditure to be spent on various items like jewellery, cloths, sweets, furniture, traveling and other miscellaneous expenses. Parents of girls have to arrange for all household goods, bike/car, bungalow/flat, etc for the new couple according to their estimate and capacity while on the other side boys parents gives jewellery, cloths to the new married bride and boys parents give presents/gifts to their own sisters and daughters. The estimate of both sides is generally remains same or have some minor differences but the amount spent by girls parents or we can say the gifts/goods given by girls parents in marriage is counted as Dowry which sometimes raises a question in my mind that why the only girls parents expenditure is counted as Dowry? Why not the expenditure of Boys parents are counted as Dowry? Here I would like to clarify that I am strongly against any forced demand from girls parents but the help to establish new couple should not be counted as dowry while the couple must take care that they stands at their own feet's without having much problems for their parents.
If want to change the above mentioned system then court marriage/marriage in temple/shrine/church/religious place can be opt in which only girl, boy & their parents goes to complete the procedure of marriage and no relatives/friends needs to be invited. No function/party (lunch & dinner) will be offered to anyone, but it will remove the social linking from society so to preserve society values a joint dinner/lunch party may be organized by both side parents). No amount will be spent on celebration and No Gifts/cloths/jewellery will be given to bride/groom and they must settle themselves at their own. THE IMPORTANT THINGS TO BE NOTED THAT MARRIAGE MUST BE ARRANGED ONLY WHEN BRIDE/GROOM THEMSELVES HAVE ENOUGH RESOURCES IN THEIR POCKET TO ESTABLISH THEIR NEW FAMILY.
On blog of my friend I come to know about a matrimonial web site which works for the bachelors to marry without dowry the site is http://idontwantdowry.com. If you are a bachelor and your are against you can register on this site.
celebrations are linked with status symbol .it is not easy to break this in the present specially middle class society .jhallevichaaraanusaar parents of both bride and groom should contribute voluntarily so that new home of their bacchaas may be set.
ReplyDeleteits just social status symbol,
ReplyDeleteit will change but it will take more 100 years
SO this
ReplyDeleteIndia marriage is a tradition, that will still remain unless it will be forgotten.
The trend seems to bechanging ,especially,where girls are getting educated/
ReplyDelete