tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3016147621427890006.post7388111396399301842..comments2023-11-05T17:03:37.014+05:30Comments on EveryMatter: Arranged Marriages in IndiaEverymatterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05875066748770822800noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3016147621427890006.post-50736127374929611492008-03-21T16:22:00.000+05:302008-03-21T16:22:00.000+05:30Arranged marriages worked in the old days (in the ...Arranged marriages worked in the old days (in the East as well as in the West) because:<BR/><BR/>- EVERYBODY expected to get get married this way. There was no contact with the unrelated opposite sex otherwise.<BR/><BR/>- Spouses lived in extended families, and usually made their living in the same household. <BR/><BR/>- Marriage was an issue of social obligation, not personal fulfillment.<BR/><BR/>- Spouses were duty-bound to put out in the marital bed and make babies for the clan. No concept of marital rape.<BR/><BR/>- Most importantly, there was no concept of privacy or individuality. Everyone grew up, worked and died in the same community. They learnt the same things, spoke the same language, ate the same food, and were exposed to the same cultural norms. As such, everyone was a cookie-cutter copy. Any man could be paired up with any woman as long as they came with some wealth, a pair of hands and their respective reproductive apparatus. Today, people travel offline or online, and are exposed to different cultures, religions, books, societies, languages, cuisines and lifestyles. If they are open-minded, they will certainly develop strongly distinct individual traits and needs about which their families may either not know or not care. Hence, "old school" arranged marriages will be more difficult to accept.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com